is a common byproduct why you see someone you are attracted to.
Unfortunately, if you appear too shy, not only will you come across
as less approachable but also as less attractive. The way to avoid
this is to find ways of calming your body down when your anxiety
rises. Below are seven techniques to try out; they are sure to crush
shyness and help meet the partner of your dreams.
Techniques for Dealing with Shyness:
Leave the situation temporarily until anxiety subsides. Talk to
another person: Redirect nervousness and conversation to someone you
are not attracted to.
Force your body to move. This will get rid of excess energy that
Perform a simple repetitive activity:
Distract your attention by focusing on a task that requires simple,
repetitive action (i.e. tapping your foot, squeezing a ball, chewing
Do something that requires focused
concentration: Focus all of your attention on a task that
demands your full concentration (reading a book, multiplying numbers
in your head).
Take slow, deep breaths and exhale slowly. Repeat five times.
Repeat positive statements.
When you catch negative statements creeping into your thoughts,
quickly replace them with positive statements (i.e., Negative
thought= "He/She probably doesn't think I'm pretty/handsome enough."
Positive statement= "If he/she didn't think I was nice looking,
he/she wouldn't be looking my way.").