Q.
I took off a full year from the single’s scene to get myself together
after a break up with a man I was deeply in love with. To jumpstart
the process, I went to a club last week and met a wonderful man. We
really connected and I ended up going home with him that night. Now I
regret that decision because he hasn't called me.
A.
Regardless of how strong of a 'connection' you have with someone new,
it's ALWAYS a mistake to sleep together the first night you meet.
Surveys have shown that men who believe there is potential for a
long-term relationship with a woman will avoid having sex with her too
soon. On the other hand, men who push for sex up front, don’t usually
value the woman for more than what she offers sexually. Unfortunately,
you've learned a painful lesson. In this case, regardless of how
genuine his interest may have seemed, his real intentions weren't!
Weeding
out the 'relationship-potential” men from those who aren't is a
difficult part of dating. For this very reason, it’s best to delay
sexual intimacy until a relationship develops, despite the level of
sexual chemistry two people feel for each other. Playing it safe may
be a conservative approach, but the best one for your heart.
