Q:
My boyfriend and I have been together for five years and like most
relationships, we've had our ups and downs. However, recently I found
out that he had an affair and the woman got pregnant—the baby was born
two weeks ago. I talk to both of them and they apologized. I love him,
we share a child together, and I’m confused. Please help me.
A.
You are in a complicated situation. It's common for women in your set
of circumstances to act out of anger and make decisions they regret
later on. Because you share a child together, you need to think about
what is best for yourself as well as for your child.
If you
decide to forgive your husband’s transgressions in order to keep your
family together, the two of you need to get into counseling
immediately. This will help uncover the reason that prompted the
affair in the first place. Affairs are always a symptom of something
bigger. If you choose this journey, prepare yourself for a bumpy,
emotional ride, which, by the way, is the only way to get the
relationship on strong footing again.
Affairs
don't have to be the end of a relationship. Instead, they can be an
opportunity to grow stronger and closer. The choice is up to you, but
it sounds like you are on the right track.
