"I love
you; you love me; we're a happy family …." Do you remember that song
from childhood? You may even recognize it as the popular song Barney
sings. Through music we explore and learn about myths, ideals, and the
parameters of love.
With each
year, our understanding of what we hear and feel in music deepens,
especially as we begin to experience love. We hear thoughts similar to
ours being sung on the radio. We listen with curiosity and hope of
happy endings or perhaps guidance to help us. We learn that music
intensifies our feelings, triggers emotions, and binds memories
forever to songs that are associated with our love lives. We learn
that music is our friend and our teacher. Because of this, music has
attained a central importance in the world of romance and romantic
relationships.
Musical Inspiration Music can inspire or influence romance in so many ways.
It's hard for music not to inspire; it stirs the emotions when singers
sing about love's emotional extremes. When you hear a song that says,
"I'm in the mood for love simply because you're near me," it's hard to
resist having an emotional reaction to what you hear. Music
facilitates romance between you and your partner by moving both the
intellect and emotions.
Music: A Course in Love
Now that
you know how music can naturally foster romance, the following tips
will help you to use music in your own relationship to increase
romance between you and your partner:
If you
are out and about doing something with your partner and you hear
your partner say, "Wow, I love that song," don't just let the moment
pass. Find out what the song is and buy it. Add it to your romantic
collection.
If you
attend a Broadway show or a romantic film that moves you
emotionally, buy the soundtrack. This way, you'll be able to bring
back the intense emotions you experienced again and again with your
partner.
Jump at
the chance to dance together when music moves you.
Going to
concerts-especially by singers well known for romantic ballads-can
put you in the middle of emotional moments that are bigger than
life.
