is much more about attitude than technique. Sometimes the only
adjustment needed is a few exercises that improve the act of making
love. Although the practices below can be done alone, they are best
practiced while making love with your partner.
Touch and be Touched
The body is one big erogenous zone. Don't focus your touching
exclusively on the genitals, breasts, or buttocks. Let your hands
explore the more neglected areas for a greater impact on lovemaking.
the feet, for instance, are highly sensitive to touch. To see how
powerful this rule can be, the next time you make love, agree to go 30
minutes without touching the sexual areas of the body.
Encourage Your Partner
To prevent worrying, "I'm taking too long" or "This won't work,"
partners should cheer each other on by using positive statements such
as, "I'm enjoying this, take as long as you want."
Be in the Moment While making love, put ALL thoughts out of your head.
Instead, focus on the sensations of your five senses. When you catch
your mind drifting, bring it back.
Never Compare Lovers
You've learned your skills from your past, but your partner doesn't
need to hear about your schooling. Concentrate on mastering your
techniques with your current partner.