Q:
Recently I saw my boyfriend masturbating to pornography while he was
in the bathtub. He had no idea that I saw him and now I'm worried that
he prefers pornography to me. Do you think I should say something to
him about this?
A:
There is no reason for you to 'talk' to your boyfriend about what you
saw. It's common for men to use fantasy, of various kinds, for
sexually stimulation during masturbation. A pornographic magazine is
one form of fantasy. Some men prefer reading erotic stories, while
others enjoy watching X-rated movies. Regardless of the type, the
purpose is usually the same—to relieve sexual tension.
The act of
solo-sex meets certain needs that partner-sex doesn’t—it’s a sexual
experience when performance is not an issue. Instead, it is a time for
a man to release sexual tension without having to be a good lover to
anyone else but himself. So, don't give it a second thought, this, in
no way, will decrease his sexual interest in you. If it does, then you
have something to be concerned about.
