Recently I saw my boyfriend masturbating to pornography while he was
in the bathtub. He had no idea that I saw him and now I'm worried that
he prefers pornography to me. Do you think I should say something to
him about this?
There is no reason for you to 'talk' to your boyfriend about what you
saw. It's common for men to use fantasy, of various kinds, for
sexually stimulation during masturbation. A pornographic magazine is
one form of fantasy. Some men prefer reading erotic stories, while
others enjoy watching X-rated movies. Regardless of the type, the
purpose is usually the sameóto relieve sexual tension.
The act of
solo-sex meets certain needs that partner-sex doesnítóitís a sexual
experience when performance is not an issue. Instead, it is a time for
a man to release sexual tension without having to be a good lover to
anyone else but himself. So, don't give it a second thought, this, in
no way, will decrease his sexual interest in you. If it does, then you
have something to be concerned about.