Who Comes First? -
The Toy or Your Partner
OK, so the title of this article seems a
bit bizarre when you think about who holds more importance in your
relationship, however, many a couple have faced this issue when using
sex toys as a sexual aide.
The correct answer to whom comes first
should always be YOUR PARTNER, no matter the situation. However,
there is one situation where the toy does come first, but really
second when you view it like this. During masturbation it's all
about you making yourself feel good so you come first. The toy
then comes second, but don't worry, your toys don't have feelings and
won't be hurt... emotionally that is.
OK, so what happens if you feel your
partner is giving the toy more play than you? The best thing to
do is to collect your thoughts and calmly tell your partner your
feelings. Honesty and respect will always lead to a healthy
Many Men and Women enjoy having there
alone time in the bedroom and that's a sign of a healthy relationship,
however, there are many ways to be involved with your partner where
they also have their play time, either by themselves or with you.
1.) Be a voyeur only - Watching, but not
touching or not being allowed to touch can be a very erotic thing.
2.) Who's in control? - Ask that your
partner be the one who uses the toy on you. This can help your
partner to better learn your needs too.
3.) A naughty video - Videotape yourself
using the toy and give it to your partner as their own personalized
porno so they can enjoy themselves.
4.) Mutual Masturbation - Have a Sex Toy
only session in which you both enjoy your toys separately, but
Remember, the Sex Toy is always the
addition not the replacement. So enjoy yourselves and focus your
feelings on your partner.
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