Q:
I’ve never been a romantic kind of guy and I’m tired of my girlfriend
get angry with me because I’m not. Is it possible to be romantic when
I don’t see the value in it?
A:
People ask me all the time why romance is important. It’s important
because it’s the only way to show your partner you care. It is not
about the cost of a gift or the magnitude of a gesture, but expressing
your love to your partner on a regular basis.
The secret
to being romantic is two-fold. You need to have both desire and
opportunity. When you have desire, you will create the opportunity for
romance. If you don’t, your relationship will die.
Part of
learning how to keep a relationship happy is to learn to identify
early warning signs of trouble. This way, you and your partner can
repair the damage before the problem becomes worse.
In
romantic relationships, one of the first signs of trouble is a
decrease in romance. This does not mean that once romance begins to
wane, your relationship is on the rocks. It simply is gauge for you to
keep your eye on. If you notice definite cutbacks in romance, let it
be a signal that you need to add more romantic gestures to your
relationship. Increasing romance will create a surge of positive
energy in the relationship.
